Post by +Lady Miki+ on May 28, 2009 8:28:02 GMT -5
Okay, my very first rant..this is something that has gotten under my skin for years and now I have reached my breaking point.
I have recently started to dislike subjective people(I mean REALLY dislike them, mind you) to the point where I prefer not to associate with them. When it comes to having a least favorite of something, that's fine, but the comments such as "how can anyone want to be near that? It's crappy!" or "You like THOSE? But it's *insert negative comment* really rub me the wrong way . A) It implies that one is entitled to their opinion and not their own, B) It is only the person's OPINION that the thing is bad, not the gospel truth, and while it might suck to those people, it might not suck to others and C) When saying that, it can imply that the person has no taste or that the commenter thinks less of them.
And yet, if the person finally gets riled up and not like it anymore, it's considered stupid/immature. While I agree that those people should be stronger and laugh at subjective people if they have too, one cannot control how someone is going to react, and if what was said "hints" that they're not supposed to like what is most hated, they can't be blamed for not liking whatever it is they used to like. And friends shouldn't put their friends in a situation where they would have to treat their friends the same way they treat "trolls" and bullies. Besides, some damage cannot be undone. You don't want someone to stop liking whatever it is they liked, you should not say subjective things in the first place.
Subjective people may justify what they say by pointing out that they are being honest. No, I do not expect them to lie, but at the same time, not everything is worth saying. If it causes more harm than good (it may be the primary intent, it may not) then it is better left unsaid. You want people to respect your preferences, do the same. Don't make subjective comments about someone's likes if you don't want them to do it to you. Flaming someone might be far worse than making a subjective comment, but the subjective comments is very capable of sending the same message as a flame can. Besides, it is silly to be so against something that you believe that everyone should hate it. (And I am talking about the things that are rather trivial). It is the subjective person's problem if they hate it, not anyone elses. Show some tact.
My attitude towards these type of people is either get over themselves, or save their subjective comments for the people who care. Because they're only wasting their time and my time.
I have recently started to dislike subjective people(I mean REALLY dislike them, mind you) to the point where I prefer not to associate with them. When it comes to having a least favorite of something, that's fine, but the comments such as "how can anyone want to be near that? It's crappy!" or "You like THOSE? But it's *insert negative comment* really rub me the wrong way . A) It implies that one is entitled to their opinion and not their own, B) It is only the person's OPINION that the thing is bad, not the gospel truth, and while it might suck to those people, it might not suck to others and C) When saying that, it can imply that the person has no taste or that the commenter thinks less of them.
And yet, if the person finally gets riled up and not like it anymore, it's considered stupid/immature. While I agree that those people should be stronger and laugh at subjective people if they have too, one cannot control how someone is going to react, and if what was said "hints" that they're not supposed to like what is most hated, they can't be blamed for not liking whatever it is they used to like. And friends shouldn't put their friends in a situation where they would have to treat their friends the same way they treat "trolls" and bullies. Besides, some damage cannot be undone. You don't want someone to stop liking whatever it is they liked, you should not say subjective things in the first place.
Subjective people may justify what they say by pointing out that they are being honest. No, I do not expect them to lie, but at the same time, not everything is worth saying. If it causes more harm than good (it may be the primary intent, it may not) then it is better left unsaid. You want people to respect your preferences, do the same. Don't make subjective comments about someone's likes if you don't want them to do it to you. Flaming someone might be far worse than making a subjective comment, but the subjective comments is very capable of sending the same message as a flame can. Besides, it is silly to be so against something that you believe that everyone should hate it. (And I am talking about the things that are rather trivial). It is the subjective person's problem if they hate it, not anyone elses. Show some tact.
My attitude towards these type of people is either get over themselves, or save their subjective comments for the people who care. Because they're only wasting their time and my time.
